Why Do We Fall? – Why I Hate Resolutions

Why I Hate Resolutions!!! I do. Trust me. In fact resolutions drive me nuts. Mainly because I know I’ll fail them before I even start them.

Every year we as Americans sit down with a list of our dreams. We spend hours listing out the ways we’re going to conquer them. We follow countless blogs, post motivational meme’s, and even tell others to hold us accountable.

Then- Somewhere around the 20th January life sets in. Kids get sick, the car breaks down, the dog pees all over the house, or we find ourselves snowed in with nothing but a box of fruity pebbles and an endless amount of Netflix- (I actually think that sounds great!!!!)

We fail all the time. And you know what- it’s Okay. If I hadn’t failed at so many things I may have never taken the path that led me to my wife. Gave me my kids. Introduced me to my friends. The point is- a Goal a goal- It’s not life. And when failure occurs we take a page from Thomas Wayne and we remind ourselves of what we should do when we fall down-

So We can pick ourselves back up!!!

If I have one resolution this year it’s this-Not being afraid to fail!!!

Because if I’m not failing- I’m simply standing still.

Happy New Year everyone.

Does Your Life Feel Like a Vapor?

Every year I see countless ads scroll across my news feed challenging people to take control of their life, plan accordingly, say no, set new goals, achieve your dreams in 2016. Now I have no intention of bashing these courses. They are very good. In fact I’ve taken many of them myself. But often times people come to these with a preconceived idea and hope. And when that hope goes unmet they simply give up.


I use to be this way. Every year I would sit down and list out my goals. But then they would go unmet. Now there are a number of reasons for this. But mostly I was setting big goals and was focused more on what I wanted in my life instead of what God was directing me to do. As a result, I racked up large amounts of debt and was left with disappointment when everything I hoped for was never achieved.

I went to a school I shouldn’t have gone to because everyone said “That’s where you need to go…”

I entered a career in ministry because I thought that’s what I should be doing only to discover it wasn’t where God wanted me…

I could go on and on but what’s the point.

Sometimes God directs us to go places that don’t make sense in the beginning and goes against our finite minds but in the end- They lead us to a promise.

I love the passage in James 4:13-17

“Come now, you who say, ‘Today or tomorrow we will go into such and such a town and spend a year there and trade and make a profit’- yet you do not know what tomorrow will bring. What is your life? For you are a mist that appears for a little time and then vanishes. Instead you ought to say, if the Lord wills, we will live & do this or that. As it is, you boast in your arrogance. All such boasting is evil. So whoever knows the right thing to do and fails to do it, for him it is sin.”

I will admit that at first glance, at least from the worlds perspective, this verse comes across a little depressing. To think “I am nothing more than a mist that quickly disappears.”

I mean it goes against everything we ever thought about ourselves, our lives, our plans. It runs against the grain of contemporary culture and tells us our lives are worthless.

But is that honestly what God is saying here…?

For years I ran from what God was leading me to do with my life. I was afraid, overwhelmed, and lacked the confidence to be able to sit and use creativity to bring glory to Him instead of myself. I discovered through my own worthless efforts that I was trying to create on my own- Instead of being Creative with God.

I believe God has a desire for all of Life to become Spiritual Worship. He desires us to enjoy Him and to make Him known. God has blessed us with gifts, and talents. And more often times than not we take those talents and use them for our own personal gain, forgetting to worship and thank the one that created them in us to start with.

Life is short. To quote DR Who: “It all just disappears, doesn’t it? Everything you are, gone in a moment; like breath on a mirror.”

Imagine stopping for a moment this next year and surrendering everything to Him. Bathing everything in prayer. Taking your talents (whatever the may be) and letting His light shine through you during the process of you using them.

Now don’t misunderstand me. I believe God gives us talents so was can succeed in life. I do. Whether we make greats gains financially or not. But I also believe we should use those talents to build a platform to point others toward Him.

So the question is this. What if no one ever saw your talent in action…? What if no tasted your food, tried your recipe, looked at your art, read your devotions or you novel…? What if your sculpture sat in some dusty warehouse with no eye to admire it…? What if only you and God knew the words on the page…? Would it be enough to know it was there, and that you created it with God…?


2015 READING GOALS- A Bold New Adventure #AmReading

bridgetohavenI have to admit, I’m not one that likes to move outside of my comfort zone. Maybe it’s my OCD that kicks in every so often, but when I’m within the perimeters of what feels normal, then I feel as if I can breathe. And let’s face it, breathing is important. It’s a necessity for life, an essential element for one to survive. But every so often we have to take steps in life that are necessary for us to grow. Which means, dealing with change.

Most who know me know I love to read. Not a day goes by where I don’t have a book in my hand and opened. Getting lost in a world of fiction to me is one of the greatest joys a person can have. And who doesn’t love escaping life for a fraction of a moment? To me reading is both joyful and therapeutic to the mind.

But occasionally I find myself caught up in the same routine, reading the same style of stories, same genre, same authors. Why? Because I know what I’m getting, it’s in my comfort zone, it’s safe.

But this year I’m trying a bold new approach. (I should have probably typed TRYING in bold letters actually) Because trying is what I’m doing. Not saying that I will stick it out, but certainly trying.

My goal is to read one book a season (four books this year) in a genre I don’t normally read in and / or write in. For me that means probably some Romance or literary fiction.

So there you have it. And I’m starting off this winter with a book by Francine Rivers A Bridge to Haven.

And I must say, I’m only two chapters in and I’m enjoying it. I have several on my list, but four is ultimately my goal for this year. Four books outside my genre. If you have any suggestions, then I would love to hear them. So please, drop me a message and let me know.


The New Year and Beyond!!!!

The new year is almost here and that makes me excited. I love January. I’m not sure why really, but something about the 1/1 just feels fresh. It’s a chance to brush off and start new. Forget about the failures of the past year and look forward with a renewed mind and attitude. Resolutions, goals, dreams to be achieved. It’s all exciting and fun.

If you’re like me you’re already thinking about what you want to achieve next year. Maybe you got some area in your life where everything just seemed to fall apart and you want to start fresh. Maybe life got busy and you feel overwhelmed and you know something has got to change. Or maybe you feel sluggish and down and really need to get back in shape. Whatever it may be now’s the time to prepare.

But I got to be realistic. I tend to sometimes aim big. But this year I’m changing it all. I’m going small and manageable. Trying to be smart and decide “What can I really get done?” After all, dreams without small manageable goals are simply unrealistic.

So here are the categories. Starting tomorrow.